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Unplanned Second Pregnancy
In August, 2004, I gave birth to our first… “Lucy Mae.” She was so sweet. My husband & I immediately fell in love with her. I decided not to go back to work full-time. Money was going to be tight but it was worth it to stay home. I just could not imagine my little Lucy being taken care of by someone else and I was breastfeeding. How would I manage that? It was all too much. We spent so many happy days together. Lucy was great. I hit the jackpot…I thought being a parent was EASY. I really had no complaints about her or motherhood. I was settling in to my new lifestyle as a mom and loving it. In April, 2005, my husband and I decided to take a trip to Marco Island, Florida. (Thanks to our tax refund!) We had a great time. Lucy’s first time on an airplane, at the beach and in the ocean. Needless to say 1 month after we returned I started to feel VERY sick & tired all the time. The feelings were familiar…but I just did not think it was possible. On a whim I took a pregnancy test and sure enough…it was positive. Lucy was only 9 months old and there I was pregnant with another… All I could think about was how this was going to affect Lucy – she was too little to be a BIG sister. She would be 16 months old when the new baby arrived. There is nothing you can do to prepare a child that young for a newborn. I did not think I could handle two under 2. I had to get a part-time job to help make ends meet. So in September, 2005 I started teaching Pre-K at a local YMCA preschool. I worked 4 hours a day. I guess the best words to describe this in my husband’s eyes were “pure shock.” He was really great with Lucy – they had a very special bond. He did feel some pressure of having a son. Just like every woman dreams of a daughter…I think most men dream of having a son. To make matters worse, as my pregnancy progressed, people would tell me I was having a boy. They said they could “just tell.” And to be honest, I felt different and looked different from when I was carrying Lucy. So I think my husband was almost convinced we were having a boy. In December, 2005, “Darcy Ann” was born. She seemed just as sweet as Lucy was…but as soon as we got home from the hospital it was a different story. She cried & cried & cried & cried. I did not know how I was going to manage a 16 month old and a crying newborn. Life did not seem as grand as before. I’ll admit. There were times when I wished it would all go away. Darcy ended up having reflux and had to take prescription Zantac. It helped a little – but now looking back I firmly believe she suffered from colic (or we all suffered from her colic) – I totally denied it at the time though. I just wanted the second time around to be just as easy as the first. Darcy was very much attached to me. Having a second child so quickly might not have been so hard for my husband had Darcy been a little easier. He was great with Lucy and that was very helpful. Since Darcy required a lot of attention Lucy and my husband became closer. I always felt bad for Lucy because I was not spending as much time with her. I was always holding Darcy and I couldn’t give Lucy all my attention. I felt bad for Darcy because I didn’t feel like I was bonding with her as I did with Lucy. I never thought I would have that “connection.” As the months went on Darcy’s got better and the saying “no two children are alike” was totally true in my case. It was a tough first 9 months with Darcy. I was a real mess but I never really talked about it. I didn’t want anyone to know that it was so hard. Fast forward to 2008…Lucy is 3 ½ and Darcy is 2…and I would not change a thing. In January, we decided I would go back to work full-time and my husband would stay home during the day with girls while working on his own career. In the past 3 months, the girls and my husband have grown very close. He never imagined he would enjoy playing dress-up or being the handsome prince. I’m not saying it has been easy…but
having them so close has been really fun. It is amazing how
my world was turned upside down at first and now Lucy and
Darcy are the stars that light my world! Are we are
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